Anonymous said: "Yes, I do know that asexuals can and do have sex and can enjoy it" maybe i'm just being acephobic but just how is that possible in any circunstance? i mean, i understand asexuals having sex for reproduction stuff or if both they and their partner agree for the sake of the partner but um
Where’d you find that? I’m fairly certain I wouldn’t say something like that, unless there was a large amount of context around it.
well that’s pretty normal to physically enjoy orgasm even without sexual attraction. if your body parts are being physically stimulated. it’s not like asexuals body’s don’t function when stumilated-that would actually be an illness or disorder not asexuality. Sexual attracction is not required to orgasm or have the body react, for example is in the case of rape person’s body still reacts physically it’s not because they’re turned on it’s because the body’s reacting to the physical stimulus. from what I know sexual attraction is in the brain going off of things like sex pheromones, physical characteristics and immune systems(seriously a diverse immune system is the most sexually attractive thing to your brain) which triggers a reaction that “turns you on”
asexual means that without a physical sexual stilumlius you don’t really ever get “turned on” by anyone ever.
(except for fetishes but fetishes aren’t sexualities and are more psychologically based -did you know that childhood fears tend to become fetishes later in life-idfk how that helps you survive in the wild but it’s true)
*like myself some/often asexual people don’t like having sex because without sexual attraction everything besides orgasm can seems really repulsive it is a pretty uncomfortably close/weird(name one time outside of sexual context that humping is normal human contact) and sticky thing to do if you take out the (sexual)attractiveness and feel that the stimulation just doesn’t make up for it.
Makes enough sense to me! (And you’ve now done the large amount of context for me so thank you :p )
Also a lot of us are touch-averse in our genital areas so stimulation isn’t really possible without extreme discomfort.
I feel like this explanation is saying that attraction to the act of sex itself doesn’t count as sexual attraction, though. You’re still splitting the definition too fine. If you are attracted to the act of sex whether or not you conceive of your attraction as being towards a specific person, then you experience sexual attraction. Every single human who has ever thought “I’d really like to have sex right now but I don’t have a specific person in mind” is not asexual. That’s. Nearly everyone.