okay telling bigots to “grow some empathy” is ableist as fuck because there are a lot of disabled people who don’t experience empathy.
and they’re usually a hell of a lot nicer than bigots with empathy.
Except “autistic people don’t experience empathy” is a harmful stereotype that started with Simon Baron-Cohen defining empathy specifically such that autistic people by definition don’t experience it, because he needed to do that for this thesis to make sense. Autistic people can experience empathy differently than most NT people but it’s not true that we don’t have it at all.
(In fact some of us have what’s called empathy overload in which we experience empathy so strongly that we shut down, and that can look like a lack of empathy to an outside observer because we’re so overwhelmed that we can’t participate in the social exchanges that usually signify empathy.)
Whenever I see this argument still being passed around, I honestly just assume it’s someone asking for a free pass to be an asshole.