[snip]I’m loving the newest post they’re put up - particularly this gem :
While some asexuals are indeed LGBTQ as well, upon critical examination the asexual political lens is very much heterocentric (and also malecentric), and I have Never Once encountered an internet asexual who displayed an actual understanding and appreciation of the context of sexual minority identity.
That is, basically, if I’ve got this right - NO ace, EVER, has understood what a sexual minotity identity is. (even if asexuality was not a minonity - nice job erasing trans* aces! nice job erasing anyone who’s not hetroromantic (you know, the ones you say are indeed GLBTQ)!
My favourite thing is the ACES ARE NOT QUEER/DEMISEXUALITY IS HETERONROMATIVITY because I just want to stare at them all “Both of my partners are nonbinary.”
I don’t even understand the malecentric part. Wait, maybe it’s saying that only men have visual sexual attraction so expecting women to is male-centric?! I don’t even.
And I commented again and it’s in moderation, and I had such a good analogyyyy
@bpbetsy: The physical sensations are there regardless of sexual attraction (or nobody would ever masturbate). And someone might want to do it because they knew it made their partner happy, and they enjoyed making them feel good (or nobody would ever give presents).
Also this blogher ad thing for hair products at the top is really annoying me
Re: Asexual/Sexual relationships are abusive.
Eff. You.
No, seriously. My husband is gay and I’m ace. There is nothing abusive about our relationship (except my dog, because she’s demon spawn). Sex is an important part of the relationship (for him) and intimacy in general is important (for me and probably him too). I’ve never once felt pressured into sex I didn’t want though.
Jesus Christmas, the people the internet comes up with these days.
-Will
/reblogging for posterity on my personal blog in T-minus 3, 2…
My .02, as always.
“Asexual/sexual relationships are abusive”
Fun story! An asexual guy recently accused me of abusing my partner because we are monogamous. He said basically that withholding sex from someone is abuse and the only way to not abuse my partner would be to be OK with him having sex with other people. My partner is asexual also and neither one of us has ever been polyamorous ever.
Facebook groups is kind of like, the asshole of the internet.
