anchiton oladabas

asexualeducation:

I’ve always wanted a younger sibling. When I was a teen, my cousins lived with us. Eventually they’d gone home and I was a lonely only child again. Unfortunately when I was around 20-21 my maternal instincts decided to make that feeling worse. The fact that we’d moved to a…

Ugh, I’m sorry this happened to you. 

I was at a party recently and a guest asked me about my Homestuck shirt (which I made and am super proud of). I told him what it was and he said his 17-year-old daughter was into Homestuck too and was active on deviantART. I’d never met another fan offline so I said I’d like to meet her and eagerly scribbled down my dA account for him to give her.

Well, he interpreted that to mean I wanted to have sex with her. He said, “I’m not sure I want her contacting you.” I panicked and frantically explained that I mean no harm and I’m actually asexual. This made things worse because it has the word “sex” in it and sounds kinky (I guess?). Then I said I’m married, and this made him relax a little, although he did say “If you’re married, why would you tell me you’re asexual?” 

I’m extremely paranoid in general of seeming “creepy”, which is why I almost never message/fanmail people here on Tumblr, I never send friend requests on FB, and I almost never post on forums. I don’t speak to children, period, unless I’m asking them not to touch things at my store. I don’t follow people at my store, either, and as a result I deal with way more shoplifting than I should reasonably have to (really, any is too much when you’re an independent business, but that’s another rant). But apparently these safeguards are not enough, and showing interest in exploring a mutual, completely non-sexual interest with someone younger than me makes me a predator.