I posted here a few weeks ago about how I think Freethought Blogs, and skeptical/atheist spaces in general, needed asexual voices, to combat the lack of, well, skepticism, and general lack of self-awareness, with which they throw around sex-normative, asexual-excluding language.
That post was bogged down with personal insults in what I’m pretty sure was record time. (Seriously, I am wondering what the record is, because for somebody with less than 100 followers, it was pretty fucking impressive.) So I deleted it.
Against my better judgment - you know, because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results - I posted on one of my favorite FTBs about some sex-normative statements that made me uncomfortable.
Responses? “You’re too sensitive” and “stop making it all about you”. You know, Derailment for Dummies stuff. From people who otherwise would seem to have derailment bingo cards tattooed on the back of their hands and consider fighting trolls a hobby.
Except now I’m the troll.
I’m now mulling over this issue and realizing I have 1) absolutely no idea how to “call out” somebody, respectfully, without being seen as a derailer, and 2) no idea how to tell if maybe I really am being too sensitive.
How the fuck do I do it without being the troll? Is it even possible? Do I really need to just STFU, after all? Is there even a place for asexuals anywhere outside of designated asexual spaces?
Part of me wants to start my own asexual skeptics blog. But I haven’t the attention span to devote to something like that, and honestly that whole junior-high-esque “You don’t want me in your club? Fine I’ll go make my own club” thing rings increasingly hollow for me these days. I kind of feel like I shouldn’t have to make my own damn club.
I guess I don’t really know what I want, and that’s part of why I’m feeling so angsty over this. Perhaps I’m just not cut out for shit like this.
