Are there any asexuals out there who *arent* depressed, self-proclaimed “socially awkward”, or into fandom??? Theres nothing wrong with any of these, but im just in a completely diff space.
Im trying to come to terms with the fact that im probably super asexual but the only times i hear of asexuals happily meeting other ones is through fandom or bonding over intense social anxiety/depression and finally belonging.
I dont belong in those spaces, yet thats literally all I see in the ace world.
God, this is *reeeeeally* not funny anymore. Im the odd one out *every* time, *every*where.
I drew some bad cards coming to this world.
Hey, I’m pretty much in the exact same boat as you. My husband turned out to be asexual (or more like, sex-apathetic, I guess?) by sheer luck, but I’ve met very few asexuals outside of the internet and find that I have very little in common with them besides our orientation. Most of the asexual community touchstones - Dr. Who, Sherlock Holmes, knitting, tea, cake - really do nothing for me.
I like a few fandommy things (Homestuck, mainly) but I’ve been to exactly one cosplay meet and reeeeeeally didn’t feel like I belonged (mostly because I’m not into anime/manga and most other Homestucks are, and also I was like twice as old as anybody else there). And while I do have depression and social anxiety disorder, those things are well-controlled with my medication and I don’t feel like they’re a major part of my life, and certainly not something I would like to use to meet friends.
So no, you’re not alone!