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johnssociopathicboyfriend:

I keep seeing all these posts about what asexuality isn’t but ive never seen one that explains what it actually is can someone like legit just explain to me what it is because im really confused about what being asexual actually means

It just means you aren’t interested in a sexual relationship with anybody, regardless of their gender. 

There are a few other caveats - like if you used to be interested in people sexually but aren’t anymore because you’re taking a medication that decreases your libido, for instance, then that’s not the same as being asexual - but basically that’s the gist of it. 

actuallyasexual:

hakeemmartinluthershabazz:

actuallyasexual:

If a self described straight individual only has relationships and sex and with the same gender then we think they have issues.

If a self described gay individual only has relationships and sex and with the opposite gender then we think they have issues.

If a self described asexual has sex in all their relationships then that is unquestionable so sit down, shut up, and let the sexuals keep talking over you.

I actually read a post not to long ago that said that someone can totally be gay and have shittons of sex with the opposite gender, be straight and have tons of enthusiastic fucking with the same gender and be ace and have shittons of enthusiastic cummy sex because “IT’S ALL ABOUT WHAT YOU IDENTIFY -YOURSELF- AS” and I kind of wanted to take my pen and jam it into my skull to just end it all. I mean, I’m not ace so I should sit down and stfu but I think I know contradictions where I see them.

Well sure someone can be gay and have shittons of straight sex and still be gay.

But they will also have a shitton of issues.

When it comes to the ace community though you aren’t allowed to say anything when something sounds weird. Gotta keep protecting the sexuals who can’t let go of the label, and the asexuals who think they can’t have love if they don’t conform to sexual standards.

Damn it, this troll blog talks so much sense. 

anactualwizard:

That was a very helpful slide, but I still have no idea what I am.
I have little to no sex drive and when I do get turned on, I either get turned off from being nervous or from being grossed out. Like ew, genitals are nasty and the stuff they do is even nastier. Idk though does this put me under the asexual umbrella or what I just don’t know
I just
Don’t
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Hi there.

If you’re experiencing sexual arousal in sexual situations then you’re probably not asexual. Sex aversion and asexuality can overlap but they aren’t the same thing. Someone can be a sex-averse sexual person and that’s what it sounds like you’re describing. Do you have access to a therapist? That might be a good start for sorting out your feelings about sex. 

This “sexysexual” thing needs to stop. I understand that people on here can get a little ridiculous with labeling, but making up a new sexual orientation for yourself just to mock 1% of the population is fucking ridiculous. 

towerofcolor:

Are there any asexuals out there who *arent* depressed, self-proclaimed “socially awkward”, or into fandom??? Theres nothing wrong with any of these, but im just in a completely diff space.

Im trying to come to terms with the fact that im probably super asexual but the only times i hear of asexuals happily meeting other ones is through fandom or bonding over intense social anxiety/depression and finally belonging.

I dont belong in those spaces, yet thats literally all I see in the ace world.

God, this is *reeeeeally* not funny anymore. Im the odd one out *every* time, *every*where.

I drew some bad cards coming to this world.

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Hey, I’m pretty much in the exact same boat as you. My husband turned out to be asexual (or more like, sex-apathetic, I guess?) by sheer luck, but I’ve met very few asexuals outside of the internet and find that I have very little in common with them besides our orientation. Most of the asexual community touchstones - Dr. Who, Sherlock Holmes, knitting, tea, cake - really do nothing for me. 

I like a few fandommy things (Homestuck, mainly) but I’ve been to exactly one cosplay meet and reeeeeeally didn’t feel like I belonged (mostly because I’m not into anime/manga and most other Homestucks are, and also I was like twice as old as anybody else there). And while I do have depression and social anxiety disorder, those things are well-controlled with my medication and I don’t feel like they’re a major part of my life, and certainly not something I would like to use to meet friends. 

So no, you’re not alone!