1. 13:06 23rd Mar 2014

    Notes: 46

    Reblogged from explosives-b

    Tags: lgbt

    *prints this out and staples it to the forehead of every 3edgy college acquaintance of mine who has ever griped that marriage equality is for the rich gays only* 

    (Source: tulsi-tea)

     
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    grimdarkthroes:

the-unpopular-opinions:

If you can’t acknowledge that sexuality can be a choice, then I don’t think you should be a supporter of the LGBTQA* community. 
Maybe this is just me, but I don’t like to view Bi/Homosexuality as a mental disorder. And “Born this way” believers are literally the same as conservative/Republicans that know little about what they’re talking about. 
Scientifically, Male homosexuality is classified as an absence in testosterone, while female homosexuality is, you guessed it, an absence in estrogen. I refuse to believe having a little extra hair on your chest or fuller eyelashes makes you straight. I also refuse to believe that not looking “Feminine” or “masculine” makes you homosexual. 
Many, MANY members of the queer community themselves have stated that they think homosexuality is a choice for some people, or they themselves have chosen to be queer. 
And, this isn’t like the hair color you were born with, this is something about yourself that you can change. It’s like your favorite color or your favorite food, when you’ve only eaten Mac and cheese your whole life, you might fall in love with PB&J, or you might try PB&J, and decide you like Mac and Cheese better. Most people start life thinking that they’re straight because most people are and we’re taught humans reproduce heterosexually and we, as humans, are expected to reproduce. It’s not until you learn about more sexual identities that you scan through and pick one you like. 
It’s also a lot easier, in my opinion, to view being queer as a choice. It’s easier to convince a bigot that this was your choice and what makes you happy, then you were born like that. I think the “born this way” mentality is the reason things like straight camps exist: They believe something is wrong and can be fixed. Unless being happy is suddenly a problem, choice mulls over so much easier. “I don’t like your decision” is a lot better than “There’s something wrong with him/her’s mental growth and some nerve/cell/whatever failed and now they’re gay” 

(DISCLAIMER this is about the LGB community, since the post is about sexuality, not gender.)
Hey if I had a choice I’d be straight let me tell you.
“Scientifically, Male homosexuality is classified as an absence in testosterone, while female homosexuality is, you guessed it, an absence in estrogen.” Okay. Okay, I can understand where this misconception is coming from, I’m in nursing school, I read the literature and I know quite a bit about the human body (and I happen to have a huge raging love for fetal development and reproductive endocrinology, you’re in luck!). But that’s not how homosexuality is classified… at all. It’s classified as an exclusive sexual and romantic attraction to the same gender. That’s. That’s all. It it theorized to be caused by lower testosterone levels in the womb (for men) or high testosterone levels in the womb (for women), with some slight masculinization/feminization of the brain. Not low estrogen levels or low testosterone levels in adult men and women. (Also, the word you’re looking for for women is ‘elevated testosterone’, not lowered estrogen. Masculinization pretty much relies on T, not an absence of E. Default human development= female. Testosterone is what’s needed to put the brakes on that and go whoa whoa whoa there friend hold on no we must be male. This is why you see feminization of varying degrees in men with low T levels, although if the low T developed in adulthood, it’s often not nearly as severe. Let’s not open up the Big Book of Intersex Conditions, however. Focus, Rezi.) All of these studies, however, are far from conclusive- the current body of evidence suggests that yes, hormones probably play some role, although it’s decidedly not the only factor in figuring out who comes into this world shooting rainbows out their ass. The human brain is a very complex organ- complex enough that even with my admittedly quite high IQ I kind of shrivel in terror at it. Understanding emotion is a ridiculously hit-or-miss science, I mean, look at how we treat actual mental illnesses. “Well, this drug might help you or it might make you worse, same with this drug, maybe therapy, maybe not, maybe ECT, maybe not,” and so on into the distance.
“Maybe this is just me, but I don’t like to view Bi/Homosexuality as a mental disorder. And “Born this way” believers are literally the same as conservative/Republicans that know little about what they’re talking about.” Just because someone is born some way doesn’t make it a mental disorder, you yourself say hair color is an inborn trait later in this post. Like, I was born with a few billion traits, some of which I can change if I force myself to, some (like homosexuality) I can’t. Not every inborn mental trait is a mental disorder. 
“I also refuse to believe that not looking “Feminine” or “masculine” makes you homosexual.” Good we agree.
“Many, MANY members of the queer community themselves have stated that they think homosexuality is a choice for some people, or they themselves have chosen to be queer.” [citation needed]
“And, this isn’t like the hair color you were born with, this is something about yourself that you can change. It’s like your favorite color or your favorite food, when you’ve only eaten Mac and cheese your whole life, you might fall in love with PB&J, or you might try PB&J, and decide you like Mac and Cheese better.” Oh, so I haven’t ‘tried’ men enough, I guess? I haven’t, what, eaten enough proverbial PB&J to decide whether or not to choose to be gay? What are the balls here? Is it the peanut butter? Am I dealing with peanut butter dicks? I mean, shit, if forcing myself to like men was as easy as my friend who forced herself to like spinach by eating raw handfuls of it, I would do it in a heartbeat. Hell, I tried something like that. 
“It’s not until you learn about more sexual identities that you scan through and pick one you like.” BOY I SURE DO LIKE SELF LOATHING, DISCRIMINATION, AND A DRASTICALLY REDUCED DATING POOL. I SURE DO LIKE NOT BEING ABLE TO HAVE A BIOLOGICAL CHILD WITH MY FUTURE PARTNER (in all likelyhood). SURE IS A FUCKING BLAST.
“It’s easier to convince a bigot that this was your choice and what makes you happy, then you were born like that.” It doesn’t make me happy. It’s something I was born with. 
"“I don’t like your decision” is a lot better than “There’s something wrong with him/her’s mental growth and some nerve/cell/whatever failed and now they’re gay” Yeah, but decisions are conscious choices. I don’t make the decision to put (food metaphors!) ketchup on my mac n cheese, because I think ketchup is vile unless it’s being used as a fry dip. Someone who does put ketchup in their mac n cheese can choose not to do so. I can choose to try it (I have it’s gross.) Nothing failed to make me gay. Nothing went wrong. Something went differently from pop norm, this is true, but again, not every variation is a disorder. 
Rezi out.

“Many, MANY members of the queer community themselves have stated that…they themselves have chosen to be queer.”
Ah, okay, here we see the problem with using “queer” as an umbrella term for the whole LGBTA+ acronym. Yes, being queer is indeed a choice, because “queer” is a political label, not in itself a sexual orientation or gender identity. But we’ve elided the two so much that it’s easy to hear someone say “I choose to identify as queer” and interpret that as “I choose to be gay/lesbian/bisexual”. And I’m betting that’s where OP got this idea. 

    grimdarkthroes:

    the-unpopular-opinions:

    If you can’t acknowledge that sexuality can be a choice, then I don’t think you should be a supporter of the LGBTQA* community. 

    Maybe this is just me, but I don’t like to view Bi/Homosexuality as a mental disorder. And “Born this way” believers are literally the same as conservative/Republicans that know little about what they’re talking about. 

    Scientifically, Male homosexuality is classified as an absence in testosterone, while female homosexuality is, you guessed it, an absence in estrogen. I refuse to believe having a little extra hair on your chest or fuller eyelashes makes you straight. I also refuse to believe that not looking “Feminine” or “masculine” makes you homosexual. 

    Many, MANY members of the queer community themselves have stated that they think homosexuality is a choice for some people, or they themselves have chosen to be queer. 

    And, this isn’t like the hair color you were born with, this is something about yourself that you can change. It’s like your favorite color or your favorite food, when you’ve only eaten Mac and cheese your whole life, you might fall in love with PB&J, or you might try PB&J, and decide you like Mac and Cheese better. Most people start life thinking that they’re straight because most people are and we’re taught humans reproduce heterosexually and we, as humans, are expected to reproduce. It’s not until you learn about more sexual identities that you scan through and pick one you like. 

    It’s also a lot easier, in my opinion, to view being queer as a choice. It’s easier to convince a bigot that this was your choice and what makes you happy, then you were born like that. I think the “born this way” mentality is the reason things like straight camps exist: They believe something is wrong and can be fixed. Unless being happy is suddenly a problem, choice mulls over so much easier. “I don’t like your decision” is a lot better than “There’s something wrong with him/her’s mental growth and some nerve/cell/whatever failed and now they’re gay” 

    (DISCLAIMER this is about the LGB community, since the post is about sexuality, not gender.)

    Hey if I had a choice I’d be straight let me tell you.

    Scientifically, Male homosexuality is classified as an absence in testosterone, while female homosexuality is, you guessed it, an absence in estrogen.” Okay. Okay, I can understand where this misconception is coming from, I’m in nursing school, I read the literature and I know quite a bit about the human body (and I happen to have a huge raging love for fetal development and reproductive endocrinology, you’re in luck!). But that’s not how homosexuality is classified… at all. It’s classified as an exclusive sexual and romantic attraction to the same gender. That’s. That’s all. It it theorized to be caused by lower testosterone levels in the womb (for men) or high testosterone levels in the womb (for women), with some slight masculinization/feminization of the brain. Not low estrogen levels or low testosterone levels in adult men and women. (Also, the word you’re looking for for women is ‘elevated testosterone’, not lowered estrogen. Masculinization pretty much relies on T, not an absence of E. Default human development= female. Testosterone is what’s needed to put the brakes on that and go whoa whoa whoa there friend hold on no we must be male. This is why you see feminization of varying degrees in men with low T levels, although if the low T developed in adulthood, it’s often not nearly as severe. Let’s not open up the Big Book of Intersex Conditions, however. Focus, Rezi.) All of these studies, however, are far from conclusive- the current body of evidence suggests that yes, hormones probably play some role, although it’s decidedly not the only factor in figuring out who comes into this world shooting rainbows out their ass. The human brain is a very complex organ- complex enough that even with my admittedly quite high IQ I kind of shrivel in terror at it. Understanding emotion is a ridiculously hit-or-miss science, I mean, look at how we treat actual mental illnesses. “Well, this drug might help you or it might make you worse, same with this drug, maybe therapy, maybe not, maybe ECT, maybe not,” and so on into the distance.

    Maybe this is just me, but I don’t like to view Bi/Homosexuality as a mental disorder. And “Born this way” believers are literally the same as conservative/Republicans that know little about what they’re talking about.” Just because someone is born some way doesn’t make it a mental disorder, you yourself say hair color is an inborn trait later in this post. Like, I was born with a few billion traits, some of which I can change if I force myself to, some (like homosexuality) I can’t. Not every inborn mental trait is a mental disorder. 

    I also refuse to believe that not looking “Feminine” or “masculine” makes you homosexual.” Good we agree.

    Many, MANY members of the queer community themselves have stated that they think homosexuality is a choice for some people, or they themselves have chosen to be queer.” [citation needed]

    And, this isn’t like the hair color you were born with, this is something about yourself that you can change. It’s like your favorite color or your favorite food, when you’ve only eaten Mac and cheese your whole life, you might fall in love with PB&J, or you might try PB&J, and decide you like Mac and Cheese better.” Oh, so I haven’t ‘tried’ men enough, I guess? I haven’t, what, eaten enough proverbial PB&J to decide whether or not to choose to be gay? What are the balls here? Is it the peanut butter? Am I dealing with peanut butter dicks? I mean, shit, if forcing myself to like men was as easy as my friend who forced herself to like spinach by eating raw handfuls of it, I would do it in a heartbeat. Hell, I tried something like that. 

    It’s not until you learn about more sexual identities that you scan through and pick one you like.” BOY I SURE DO LIKE SELF LOATHING, DISCRIMINATION, AND A DRASTICALLY REDUCED DATING POOL. I SURE DO LIKE NOT BEING ABLE TO HAVE A BIOLOGICAL CHILD WITH MY FUTURE PARTNER (in all likelyhood). SURE IS A FUCKING BLAST.

    It’s easier to convince a bigot that this was your choice and what makes you happy, then you were born like that.” It doesn’t make me happy. It’s something I was born with. 

    "“I don’t like your decision” is a lot better than “There’s something wrong with him/her’s mental growth and some nerve/cell/whatever failed and now they’re gay” Yeah, but decisions are conscious choices. I don’t make the decision to put (food metaphors!) ketchup on my mac n cheese, because I think ketchup is vile unless it’s being used as a fry dip. Someone who does put ketchup in their mac n cheese can choose not to do so. I can choose to try it (I have it’s gross.) Nothing failed to make me gay. Nothing went wrong. Something went differently from pop norm, this is true, but again, not every variation is a disorder. 

    Rezi out.

    Many, MANY members of the queer community themselves have stated that…they themselves have chosen to be queer.”

    Ah, okay, here we see the problem with using “queer” as an umbrella term for the whole LGBTA+ acronym. Yes, being queer is indeed a choice, because “queer” is a political label, not in itself a sexual orientation or gender identity. But we’ve elided the two so much that it’s easy to hear someone say “I choose to identify as queer” and interpret that as “I choose to be gay/lesbian/bisexual”. And I’m betting that’s where OP got this idea. 

     
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itsmemacleod:

GUYS THIS IS HUGE.THIS MEANS THAT IF A SAME-SEX COUPLE LIVES IN A STATE WHERE ITS NOT POSSIBLE TO HAVE A SAME-SEX MARRIAGE THEN THEY CAN GO TO COURT AND A JUDGE WILL HAVE TO DECLARE IT OFFICIAL WITH ALL FEDERAL EFFECTS!

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    thesezipperblues:

    itsmemacleod:

    GUYS THIS IS HUGE.

    THIS MEANS THAT IF A SAME-SEX COUPLE LIVES IN A STATE WHERE ITS NOT POSSIBLE TO HAVE A SAME-SEX MARRIAGE THEN THEY CAN GO TO COURT AND A JUDGE WILL HAVE TO DECLARE IT OFFICIAL WITH ALL FEDERAL EFFECTS!

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  4. 12:11

    Notes: 94720

    Reblogged from fucknointernetignorance

    Tags: lgbtrussiaolympicssochi

    oyasumi-artykun:

    absynthe—minded:

    lcegang:

    dontdropthatdirkadirkstrider:

    Is this even an Olympics or is it just the whole world passive aggressively protesting Russia’s Anti-LGBT+ laws 

    except nobody is fucking protesting at all? what has anyone actually done to signify a protest? germany wearing colorful outfits (that were denied to have any lgbtq connections)? google changing their logo in a way that may or may not support gay people (there’s not confirmation that it does, after all)? a group in canada (read: not the entire country of canada) making a video? one of the six (only six) openly queer athletes at the games wearing rainbow gloves and showing them to the camera?

    no one’s done anything, not even passive aggressively. i mean, good for cheryl maas, but she didn’t really do anything, mostly because she doesn’t have the power to. you know what would have signified actual protest? countries refusing to go to the games specifically because of the laws in russia, for starters. world leaders standing up and saying they cannot send their athletes to a country where people are being discriminated against so openly. (i mean, really, come on russia, just do what america does, keep your discrimination subtle and people won’t even notice it’s happening!) that would have been a big deal, that would have shown actual support.

    and, let’s be honest, in the discussions of russia’s laws and what they meant for the olympics, hardly anyone mentioned queer identities being persecuted besides those who identify solely as gay. and if that isn’t being discussed you bet your fucking ass it’s not being protested on a large scale. the very light amount of activism that has been put forth by people and corporations who actually are in a place to do something has all been directed towards the g in lgbtq and nowhere else. not that that’s anything new, but don’t you dare tell me anything that’s been done has been done with, say, trans people in mind. because it hasn’t.

    so, no, it’s an olympics. there is no protesting. what there is are 88 countries supporting russia’s anti-lgbtq laws by doing absolutely nothing. it’s like your friend who claims to “love the gays” but is best friends with someone who throws around homophobic slurs and mocks trans people openly, but on a global scale. it’s allies silently supporting an oppressor. it’s the worst kind of activism.

    and it doesn’t mean shit.

    Except no.

    • The German uniforms’ designer said they had no ties to the pride flag, because if they had said that, then it would make the uniforms a political statement, and those are specifically forbidden from use by the IOC. Less “no, you’re wrong”, more “I can’t say this out loud”.
    • Boycotting the Games would accomplish nothing, because everyone’s always boycotting the Games for a myriad of reasons. And none of those boycotts have ever led to anything. Seriously. Look it up.
    • If we had boycotted the Games this year, what would that have changed? Would Russia stop being the way it is? Would the laws get repealed? No, because they’d see it as their age-old enemy America repeating their performance from 1980, and keep on keeping on. What will change it? How about the fact that Sochi is shaping up to be the most corrupt Games of all time, and their facilities for athletes and media are laughably shoddy, and the entire world is watching?
    • Nobody’s really protesting? President Obama handpicked the American delegation that’s going to Sochi in his place. All three of them are openly gay athletes who are former Olympians. Gay athletes want to compete in Sochi’s Games, and for good reason - being out and proud and kicking Russia’s ass sends more messages then a boycott. It’s like when Jesse Owens went to Berlin in 1936 - nothing was a bigger “Fuck you!” to Nazism than a black man beating a German athlete in a race. If Russia comes away from this reeling, then we’ll have made an impact that won’t be soon forgotten.

    Ah, here it is. The “backlash against Russia is bad because it only covers ‘privileged’ gay men and excludes the rest of the acronym” post. You guys do know that the word “gay” includes gay women too, right? And you do know that countries that outlaw homosexuality don’t recognize the difference between gay people and bisexual people in same-sex relationships, because they’re using the old model that homosexuality is a behavior and not an immutable personal characteristic, right? So yeah, when people say “gay” in this context, they’re talking about gay men, lesbians, and bisexuals, who are all oppressed under homophobic laws. There really isn’t some conspiracy to exclude the rest of the acronym.

    And let’s talk about how US-centric/Western-centric that acronym even is. The fact that gay men, lesbians, bisexual people and transgender people are lumped together has everything to do with specific moments in US history - e.g. the Stonewall riots, the AIDS crisis - and it’s completely ludicrous to use it as a checklist for gauging oppression in other countries that don’t even see LG, B, and T as separate categories.

    Furthermore, it’s also US-centric as fuck to assume that because gay men (at least white, cis gay men) in the US do have some privileges over other sexual minorities, that they’re also the most ~privileged~ sexual minority in other countries and cultures. They’re not even universally the most privileged minority HERE. Go ask a scary redneck in a red state if he’d rather share a beer with a gay man or a lesbian. Go on, I’ll wait. And yeah, some of the lack of violent lesbophobia among straight men is replaced by fetishization, which is awful too, but straight men as a whole are less scared of gay women because they’re not perceived as a threat. And you better believe gay oppression in macho countries like Russia is operating on those dynamics. Gay men are targeted MORE than other sexual minorities (insomuch as other sexual minorities are even acknowledged to exist; see paragraph #2) in countries where homosexuality is illegal because they’re perceived as a threat to straight masculinity and the sort of macho nationalism that operates as a direct manifestation of straight masculinity. They’re definitely NOT benefiting from some kind of ~gay privilege~. 

    tl;dr: cut this shit out. 

    (Source: clirkstrider)

     
  5. Anonymous asked: Yeah I feel like we've arrived at a VERY strange place when a book saying "you cannot tell someone's sexuality just by looking at them" is upsetting enough to garner a content note (for "invisibilizing")?? Then here come comments from those who want to "do better" at... what, assuming people's sexuality? Plus, the OP updated to say her friend read the book & it's actually good! So, uh, cancel the alarm? Can we call this MC Escher's Upside-down Stairway of Activism?!? Really, it's boggling.

    shakesvillekoolaid:

    Seriously. A friend of mine summed it up with vanity, which while reductive is pretty accurate.

    I just thought it was really self-centered of that contributor (sorry, I don’t remember her SN) to say that since she wants to be visibly queer, everyone else should, too. If you are so concerned with making sure everyone knows you are a lesbian, get a t-shirt that says “I am a lesbian”, rather than fighting tooth and nail to maintain antiquated stereotypes that harm LGBT+ people more than they help.

     
  6. I’m noticing an increasing number of posts/articles/etc. that imply anything associated with drag or that invokes drag (specifically queens) is homophobic and/or transphobic… stopping just short of calling drag itself homophobic and/or transphobic, although I’m beginning to think that’s the next step. 

    And in the context of what I know both from studying LGBT+/queer history in an academic setting and from being involved in LGBT+/queer spaces IRL, this is extremely troubling to me.

    Has anyone else noticed this, or am I losing my mind?

     
  7. 21:04 11th Oct 2013

    Notes: 443

    Reblogged from that-darned-sock

    Tags: lgbtally hate

    ghastderp:

    I will never understand the scorn lobbed at allies by the warriors who pollute the social justice movement with their ego and their blind rage. I think about my ‘enemy’ standing up to tell the world “Everyone will be safe in the world my demographic is privileged enough to control”, and it makes…

     
  8. 15:52 22nd Aug 2013

    Notes: 17

    Reblogged from toplioncub

    Tags: queerlgbt

    toplioncub:

    I’m curious about when “queer” became a universal umbrella term for LGBT+ people. Where I live “queer” is something someone yells when they’re about to hurt you. It’s a slur where I live. On the same level as “batty boy” and “poofter”. I don’t know any LGBT person in real life who ID’s as queer.

    In my experience it’s still considered a slur in rural and conservative areas, but in the cities you almost never hear it as a slur and in fact a lot of LGBT+ people I know get offended if you refer to them as “gay” or “lesbian” or “bisexual” rather than “queer”. I think I could count the LGBT+ people I know who *don’t* call themselves queer on one hand. (And all of them would be over 50 years old.) 

     
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blonohomo:

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    blonohomo:

    cre8yourself:

    Stop stereotyping

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  10. 21:44 11th Jul 2013

    Notes: 433676

    Reblogged from drakensberg

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    possom497:

horusss:

incestuousmasturbation:

the-unpopular-opinions:

i really hate seeing children at gay rallies. in most cases, they don’t understand what they’re doing and what they’re promoting. i think most children are pressured into going to gay rallies by their parents and, therefore, pressured into believing in gay marriage. 

Excuse you, I knew about homosexuality since I was four. With five years I could already argue about it and with six I had a formed opinion. All my motherS did was explain to me what it was, without ever telling me if it was good of bad.
The truth is that is actually easier for kids to understand homosexuality, and maybe even accept it, if they are told about it at a young age.  
Yes, maybe the two-years-old kids there are not sure of whats going on, but their parents are raising them to open their minds and accept differences without it being a huge deal.
It’s funny how people don’t mind dragging kids at sundays to the church, to make them sit and listen to things they can’t understand nor question, but it’s so wrong to take them to a walk were they can see pretty rainbows , and later understand what they mean.
This is bullshit.

It’s funny how people don’t mind dragging kids at sundays to the church, to make them sit and listen to things they can’t understand nor question, but it’s so wrong to take them to a walk were they can see pretty rainbows , and later understand what they mean.

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    possom497:

    horusss:

    incestuousmasturbation:

    the-unpopular-opinions:

    i really hate seeing children at gay rallies. in most cases, they don’t understand what they’re doing and what they’re promoting. i think most children are pressured into going to gay rallies by their parents and, therefore, pressured into believing in gay marriage. 

    Excuse you, I knew about homosexuality since I was four. With five years I could already argue about it and with six I had a formed opinion. All my motherS did was explain to me what it was, without ever telling me if it was good of bad.

    The truth is that is actually easier for kids to understand homosexuality, and maybe even accept it, if they are told about it at a young age.  

    Yes, maybe the two-years-old kids there are not sure of whats going on, but their parents are raising them to open their minds and accept differences without it being a huge deal.

    It’s funny how people don’t mind dragging kids at sundays to the church, to make them sit and listen to things they can’t understand nor question, but it’s so wrong to take them to a walk were they can see pretty rainbows , and later understand what they mean.

    This is bullshit.

    It’s funny how people don’t mind dragging kids at sundays to the church, to make them sit and listen to things they can’t understand nor question, but it’s so wrong to take them to a walk were they can see pretty rainbows , and later understand what they mean.

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