see here’s the problem with the “marriage equality < homeless lgbtq youth” thing as it is iterated here on tumblr.com
when the government says that lgbtq people are sub-human and undeserving of essential civil liberties
what message to think that sends to homophobic parents about how to treat their lgbtq children
when the government thinks they’re doing you a favour because by keeping you from marrying the person you love they’re also keeping you out of hell
what message do you think that sends to homophobic parents about how to treat their lgbtq children
when the government says “we are not going to allow bigots to dictate policy; we wholeheartedly support your right to have your loving relationship sanctioned”
what message do you think that sends to homophobic parents about how to treat their lgbtq children
lgbtq youth homelessness is a symptom of homophobia and bigotry
treating the symptom is important, but not if it means neglecting the broader social illnesses
some of the most effective tools we have against the forces that cause so many lgbtq kids to be expelled from their homes are legislative and political and we need to take advantage of those tools
because the homophobia that keeps loving couples from marrying is the same homophobia that puts kids on the street
Offered in New York City Friday - Saturday nights 12AM-4AM. If you or a friend need a safe ride, please call! Save this number and spread the word! What a wonderful organization
This sounds like a really great resource!
this is a good thing but seriously? everyone but cis men? do cis men not deserve safety?
I wonder what they’d say to a cis passing trans man.
Yeah, I would think a feminine cis gay man is at greater risk of assault than a masculine, cis-passing trans man, but gay men aren’t included in the list of “approved” people, which is troubling to me.
A better idea for this would be to change the policy to “we give free rides home to anyone who is alone”, but then publicize it mainly in women’s and queer spaces. That way they might get an occasional straight cis male who wants to take advantage of the program, but the majority of users would be female or LGBT.
you know whats worse than tumbears?
redditbears.
On one of the internet’s most popular, and notorious, sites, a new community is bringing together White gay men with
old fashioned tastesinternalized homophobia and a penchant for misogyny.I fixed it.
Thank you :D
Slow the fuck down. This is more of this bullshit knee-jerk “masculine gay men interested in discussing manly stuff amongst themselves” = misogyny and internalized homophobia bullshit.
Uh-uh.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: To say that masculine gay men must have internalized homophobia is itself painfully homophobic; it implies that gay men are naturally more feminine than straight men, and to act otherwise would be to defy one’s true nature. While there is nothing wrong with being a feminine gay man, to assume that one gender expression is natural and the norm is wrong. If you are a gay man and believe this, you are not helping yourself. If you are not a gay man and you believe this, you are a shit ally and you need to stop. It’s not wrong for us to struggle against stereotypes, and one way for us to do that is to have the more masculine ones among us also point out that they exist. By showing that there is variety in our community, we allow ourselves to be seen as not just a cliche but actual humans by the world at large; not just the masculine ones, but all of us by virtue of the fact that now people know that they have to pay some fucking attention to actually know what we’re like before resorting to a tired cliche. “Maybe this guy likes drag and boxing! Maybe this one likes old cars and Cher. Maybe it’s he’s more feminine, maybe he’s more masculine, maybe it’s a mix, LET’S FIND OUT”
By the way, about the misogyny thing - and again, I’ve covered this before so sorry for people who follow me and have to see this again - labeling a lack of feminine traits and a desire to let it be known misogynistic is not only stupid but potentially damaging, because like the homophobia accusation you’re connecting the quality of enjoying stereotypically feminine pursuits with womanhood in and of itself. This is also wrong, as it reinforces gender roles. And nobody should be stuck in a gender role because that sucks ass.
By the way, I actually took a look at this subreddit and tried to find anything devious about it - maybe something condemning feminine gay men in there or something in the official rules and such.
What I found was this:
So uh. The people who run it pretty clearly are fine with having any given set of interests or being on any part of the masculinity-femininity spectrum, they just want to make sure the group stays on topic.
FEMME SHAMING! INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA! MISOGYNY!!!!11!!
(Side note: Is here-lies-andalusia implying that nonwhite gay men can’t be masculine? Because I’ve met plenty of guys down here who fit the “gaybro” mold and like a little time with others like them here and there. Hey, according to Redd’s standards even though I’m pale as fuck the fact that I’m Cuban makes me an oppressed PoC, so that must be embarrassing for them)
People being angry about ~dem gays~ on Target’s Facebook.
I just want to give my two cents on this and tell you a story.
A couple weeks ago, I was hired at Target. I have a job at Target. Not a big deal right?
It is a big deal because i’m a transman.
It doesn’t take a genius to conclude that it’s hard for me, my brothers, and sisters to get a job. There are legal restraints regarding the job and if you don’t pass, it’s hard to be taken seriously at a job interview.
Right on the application, it asks what your preferred name is. It also asks if there is anything that target should know. I put the fact that I am a transman, expecting not to get a call because usually when you put that down, people will throw out the application. I got TWO interviews.
At the interview, they asked me about it. I told them I am on hormones and they told me that they didn’t care. Not in the sense that they don’t emotionally care, but that it didn’t matter. I was male and that’s all that mattered. They also told me that they give sex same couples benefits in states that do not recognize them as a married couple.
At my job orientation, I was not misgendered once. Even my supervisors who weren’t sure of my gender avoided pronoun use, which I found only happens when you’ve had pronoun training. They gave me a name tag with my preferred name and didn’t ask questions. I felt safe and respected, which is huge for a trans* person.
TLDR: Target is amazing not just for the LGB, but also the T. Shop there for the rest of your life.
Finally I feel justified in being a Target fanboy
wow, this is really fucking uplifting. go target (:
I’ve also noted that some gay men seem to be the most suspicious of asexual people. This is partially understandable because gay men, of course, are also part of the high testosterone brood—men. But there may be other reasons as well. First, openly gay people, especially those with a bit of seasoning in the sexual marketplace, are often astute enough to know that people claiming one sexual identity (e.g., “I am bisexual,” “I am heterosexual”) at one point in their lives may “come out” as gay years later. I, too, do not discount the possibility that some asexual people, or those who identify as such, might be gay people in waiting, although I suspect that this does not apply to the majority of asexual people.
An additional reason why some gay men may be opposed to accepting a 1 percent (or more) prevalence rate may concern justice sensitivity. Gay and lesbian people have often fought hard for the right to be accepted in Western society as a visible minority. Thus, although most gays and lesbians seem very accepting of sexual variations, some may be justifiably sensitive to issues related to their own rights and recognition. Now there is a new kid on the block, perhaps encroaching on their hard-fought and hard-won space. Does yet another sexual minority in some way diminish the status of the original sexual minority group? Perhaps some gays and lesbians believe so, if only on an implicit level. Relatedly, I expect that all humans, as social psychologists have argued, have a tendency to dislike the “out-group” and, sadly and concomitantly, to force to the back of the metaphorical bus ever more marginalized groups, even among those who believe that they themselves are near the back of the bus already.
(Source: metapianycist)
literally the only non-straight people who want to get married are rich privileged white gay men I know this because anarcho-queer said so on their blog
(2) Facebook en @weheartit.com - http://whrt.it/13BRHPq
I hate this. I hate this so much.
We’re all equal here
Yeah unless you’re Hetero.
You’re born with your sexuality…unless you’re straight then you should just change it because it’s boring.
Yeah really preaching the equality here
1. That’s the whole point of the image. The artist thinks the heterosexual flag is too boring, too. See how the heterosexual figure is scowling and everybody else is smiling?
2. The picture isn’t about sexualities being boring or un-special or unworthy of acceptance. It’s specifically about flags.
3. Why exactly is everyone so down on the black-and-white color scheme, anyway? I’m of the opinion that the majority group doesn’t really need a pride flag since they’ve never been discouraged from being proud of who they are in the first place, since being straight (or white, etc.) is already the default, but if you have to have a hetero pride flag I think that one’s pretty badass.
(Source: notyouweird)
(Source: pre10tious)
no but really what’s the point of ally week
…to…recognize the straight people who are doing their best to help a cause that doesn’t directly affect them?
“good job you guys aren’t being jerks have a week of appreciation”
idk doesn’t really make sense to me
I mean allies are great things but having an ally week is kind of like having a white history month
okay but it’s not really about “CONGRATULATIONS FOR NOT BEING HOMOPHOBIC”, it’s more along the lines of “Hey, you’re straight and you’re dedicating time and effort to help change something that isn’t bringing you down any but you still see the problem with and you give enough of a damn to get out there and actively help, good on you bro”
There was a post going around a month or so ago that listed all the ways in which recognizing same-sex marriage would specifically help poor and working-class folks.
I can’t find it.
Can anybody direct me to it? Does anybody remember what I’m talking about? Please and thank you!
