Someone I had a disagreement about with on a political topic started calling me things like “dummy”, “piece of shit”, “degenerate” and “fuckwad”. Putting aside whether or not she had justification for doing so, her words and choices were emphasizing making me feel bad rather than defending her point. I asked her to stop name-calling because she was derailing the debate into a fight, and she immediately accused me of wanking about her tone. So I guess this submission is to vent my frustration.
People just straight-up don’t know what a tone argument is.
It’s “Stop being so angry! No one’s going to listen to you if you’re angry!” Which is derailing and also concern-trolling.
It is not “Please stop verbally abusing me.” It’s not a free pass to be horrible to people.